Cardiac on Cotton

Recently I was asked by a female reader, “how do I NOT wear my heart on my sleeve?”  It is an interesting question.  Of course, it always hurts to take one of your internal organs and put it on your shirt, but it is doubtful she was asking about that.

To start with, let me say that ‘wearing your heart on your sleeve’ is not necessarily a bad thing.  It lets the guy know exactly where you stand — which can be good thing.   Of course, it can make guys disappear quickly, because if they know you like them and they don’t like you, they may run away.  It depends on the person — which is tough, of course, because every person (guy or girl) is different.  

As for myself, I think that there is a lot of fun in the ‘guessing game,’ and that it is a part of flirting.  You’re not sure if you like her, she’s not sure if she likes you, and so you both sort of make silly innuendos for a while and laugh (if it is working), and then, after a bit of time, you say something slightly sappy like, “hey…wanna be my girlfriend?” or “I like you,”  or you just skip it and do unmentionable things.  😉

But I digress.  Returning to the original question,  sometimes there is nothing you can do, because you may be wired with your heart on your sleeve.  You can try a few things to lessen the impact, however, and maybe these tips will help:

1. Try not to assume anything.  Don’t assume that another person likes you just because you like them.  Wait until you’ve heard specific words on the subject.

2. Try to use your brain (this is kind of tough when feelings and hotties are involved) to see if the person also likes you; i.e. how often do they call/text you?  how often do they want to ‘hang out’?  Are they flirting, or just being friendly?  Do they initiate things, or just politely respond to your advances?

3. Try to remember that even though you like someone, they may have a set of circumstances you know nothing about which affect your dating chances. Learn as much about them as you can.

4.  Do your best to not get your hopes up too high (this is kind of tough to do).  Disappointment is different (and not as bad) as heartbreak.

Hope that helps!

Song of the Week: April 4th — April 10th

Cliffs of Dover

Eric Johnson (Ah Via Musicom)

Capitol Records, 1990.

This is an instrumental.   There aren’t any words.  I know it’s strange and new to you, but you should give this (instrumental) a listen. 😉

Titans!

Titans will clash, or

So I ‘m told via tagline.

Release the Kraken.

MLB Needs to Use Instant Replay

I like baseball.

Major League Baseball has been around since 1876 (the national league, anyway), and the first televised baseball game was in 1939.  The first use of instant replay on TV (for the winter Olympics) was in 1960.

1960!!! The officials in the Winter Olympics were using instant replay in 1960 to get calls correct!!!  So why can’t Major League Baseball use it in 2010 to get calls right?

I am not a cub fan, but on opening day yesterday, against the braves, MLB umpires proved once again that baseball needs to open their eyes and use instant replay.

Nate McClouth, the Braves center fielder, dove to catch a ball against the cubs.  The ball went into his glove, but bounced out when he hit the ground.  The umpires called a catch. Why? because they are all 50 feet away, all looking at the play from the same angle.  

The replay clearly showed there was no catch.  Sure, the umpires had a big pow-wow meeting and discussed it.  But what good is a meeting when everyone has the same angle on the play?  MLB does use instant replay to review whether a potential home run ball is fair or foul.  But it is not enough.  And I am NOT saying they need to analyze balls & strikes via replay; the game would be so slow, it would be ridiculous.  But for plays in the field where you’re going to have a break in the action anyway (when the runners reach base), at least glance up at the jumbotron!!

Every other major league sport uses instant replay as a tool for the officials to get calls correct.  What is the big deal, baseball?  You have no excuse to get calls wrong.  Ever.

Song of the Week: March 28 – April 3

Of Men And Angels The Rocket Summer

(From the Album Of Men And Angels)

Stop the press, everything’s a mess

You can look alive, but you are not at rest.

And ideas are flowing through your head

A million miles an hour while lying in your bed

A lucid life you never thought you’d lead

Are you working everyday?

Are you working just to bleed?

I know, I know, I know, I know, I know.

—————

You’re staring at the names of the famed that are dipped in gold

The feeling you deserve what you’ve heard

But it doesn’t go that way

Oh, the tongues of men and angels

I speak but lack love.

Oh, love, will I stab you in the back?

Working everyday,

I’m afraid I forgot to show what’s most important: love

———–

[Chorus:]

Here I am, dear Lord, tasting hints of fame

And I don’t want it anymore

If it’s not you that I gain

Wanna fall at your feet

Don’t wanna fall from your peace

I understand

————–

Have you ever been the man that just ran

When you knew that God was talking?

Have you ever heard his voice through the noise

But just let it go away?

Oh, the tongues of men and angels

I speak but lack love.

Oh, love, will I stab you in the back?

How can I go with mine instead of yours

When yours is always right

I’m sorry just pour into me love.

————-

[Chorus:]

Here I am, dear Lord, tasting hints of fame

And I don’t want it anymore

If it’s not you that I gain

Wanna fall at your feet

Don’t wanna fall from your peace

I understand

————–

A heart at rest is harder now

Don’t let it go away

A hard earned pay, a hard earned pain

Right now they’re just the same

What’s the use, why work so hard

When it’s not what you crave

When what you need is: love.

I understand. I understand.

2010 Island Def Jam Records

Words & Music by Bryce Avery